Add a Little Tantra Spice To Your Life
By Philip Millroy - Relationship/Sexuality Coach
Tantra is an ancient spiritual tradition that honours the sacred union of the male and female energies. Tantra is the practice of allowing an individual to recognise their sexual nature and master their sexual energy. By exploring their sexuality, an individual is able to identify and bring to the fore limiting and restraining emotional blocks. Tantra teaches processes and techniques to heal these emotions and aid personal and spiritual growth, using the healing powers of sex and intimacy.
Sexual energy can be creative at all levels - physical, emotional and spiritual. As humans we feel attraction, arousal, awakening, alertness, passion, interest, inspiration, excitement, creativity, enthusiasm - Sexual energy is at play in these situations, Deepak Chopra says, "When we feel these states of awareness, we must put our attention on our experience, nourishing it, experiencing it feeling each moment with joy in our awareness." What Tantric sex looks like will be different for different people and you don’t have to have a partner to practice Tantra. Tantra is taught by many teachers around the world, who have their own take on it, influenced by the cultures they grew up in. Certainly a key feature of Tantric sex is the importance of breathing, and slowing down sexual behaviour compared to the hectic, orgasm-focused Western approach.
Intimacy - Create your Space
This should be a comfortable area that is playful and relaxed. First, clear the room of any attention-grabbing clutter. Next, decorate with flowers, candles and cosy fabrics. Scent is really important to our sensuality, so try natural oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang, or rose. Make sure your bed is as comfortable as possible with soft sheets and a number of pillows. Lastly, chose a soundtrack of music that you both like. Play it softly in the background to enhance your mood.
By harmonising your breath you're sharing all of yourself with your partner and is one of the easiest ways to sync with your partner. Inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your partner breathes out, you'll find yourself taking their breath into and down through your entire body.
Eyes Open Contact
Holding your partner's gaze is one of the most intimate and spiritual aspects of sacred sexuality. It takes concentration and, most of all, trust. Keeping your eyes open is fundamental to a deep connection in spiritual intimacy. It is not easy to be seen, especially by the people we love; we may feel exposed, or even silly.
Slow It Down
Use this time to fully focus on each other. As in meditation, when your thoughts wander, gently guide your attention back to your partner and the magic of the moment. Foreplay is an essential joy and adds to the bliss in Tantra.
Philip Millroy is an Awakening Within relationship/sexuality coach & educator based on the Sunshine Coast. He is also a qualified and experienced body worker, reiki master, cuddle party facilitator and speaker/trainer.